March 2014. Film maker Sihle Hlophe has just become engaged. A few days later, her father passes away. Sihle is in a serious fix – who will receive the lobola now that her father is no more? Sihle respects lobola but she has reservations about the transactional, patriarchal, and heteronormative elements of the practise. In an effort to learn more about lobola before making her final decision, Sihle attends the lobola ceremonies of three other couples. After years of vacillating, she comes to an important realisation – lobola is not just about uniting two families. It is also about honouring the ancestors of those two families. What will her final decision be? Will she turn her back on lobola or will she embrace it?
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